“There are two ways to be happy: improve your reality or lower your expectations.” – Jodi Picoult
This is by far one of the hardest things we struggle with in life it seems. Some days you may feel like you can’t walk right, talk right, or do anything right. Especially if you wake up on the wrong side of the bed. It is a thing.
We take for granted the fact that we have all we need (Psalm 23) As humans we are just in a constant state of expectation. Not that it’s wrong to expect things, even miracles; however, sometimes we have an unrealistic expectation of how things should be, like we know better than God. Then when things don’t go as we expected, we are left in a very shallow pool filled with disappointment.
You should learn what you want out of life, but Love what God has already given you. Sometimes God is waiting to see how you handle a little before He gives you more (Luke 16:10) because with great power, comes great responsibility. (Luke 14:28) Sometimes the answer is yes and it’s a waiting period, and other times it’s a clear no, because it’s not good for you. In any case, there is always something to be thankful for. When we start focusing on being thankful, we start to realize how much we truly are blessed. Count your blessings, not your problems! While you are being thankful for what you have, God is surely working on what you don’t! He wants us to lack nothing. (Psalm 34:10)
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” – Philippians 4:6
Whatever the case, God is able to do immeasurably more than we could ever ask for or imagine; according to his power that is at work within us. (Ephesians 3:20) I have many times apologized for my actions, when things don’t go as I expect. Sometimes expectations in life can be a silent killer, taking an otherwise great opportunity and throwing it in the trash can. If you are given a small task to do in the church or in your life, when you really want to be doing more, do it cheerfully and as unto the Lord, perhaps God is testing your faithfulness even in the small things. (Colossians 3:23)
We are human and therefore, to err is human. We simply have to do our very best, and be patient with others. Do not expect what you do not expect to give (Luke 6:31) and certainly do not judge someone by your expectations. Learn to forgive, and be forgiven. (Ephesians 4:31-32) Do not expect perfect from a world that simply isn’t.
“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.” – Marvin J. Ashton
You have to “find” the beauty in every day, and even in people. We are put on this earth to make it a more beautiful place, with what God has given us. To speak life into people, and otherwise dark situations. We have the ability to make beauty out of ashes. Each day is a new day, and although today could feel like the worst day of your life; “the best is yet to come.”
“Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning.” – Psalm 30:5
To ensure you are having the right expectations, check with God to see if what you are aiming for is lining up with His will. If you seek Him first, He will provide all you need. (Matthew 6:33)